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  • Published on Feb 17, 2019
  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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    'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick
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  • Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell
    Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell  3 months ago +9097

    We designed a poster on this topic as well. You can find it here: standard.tv/collections/in-a-nutshell/products/in-a-nutshell-loneliness-poster

    • TomeOfBattle
      TomeOfBattle 6 days ago

      The world is cruel, people are nothing special and the universe is indifferent. I don't care for people. I can respect the better traits of the species, or the achievements of societies and individual geniuses, but that's it. The only thing that matters is one's struggle to overcome your limitations and to spite a hostile world by trying to live the best life that you can. Others don't like me, so I don't like them back.

    • Scooters Videos
      Scooters Videos 16 days ago

      Love your videos.

    • Scooters Videos
      Scooters Videos 16 days ago

      They don't seem lonely at all. They both have a friend there reading book with them. :D

    • Adx.m
      Adx.m 22 days ago

      300th reply

    • Coolwoobyër
      Coolwoobyër 25 days ago

      Animation_moment: $12,99

  • Bartek XD
    Bartek XD 19 hours ago

    relatable.

  • Kn3sL
    Kn3sL 20 hours ago

    I'm here because a few weeks ago, one friend that I loved a lot dumped me after 4 years and for people she knows only this year. Yeah it sucks

  • Hulvik
    Hulvik 22 hours ago

    Personally i don't feel the need to have social interactions, i prefer being lonely, plus i don't need problems in my life, because let's be honest it's what defines social life.
    Relationships are based on hypocrisy.

  • Jason Wang
    Jason Wang Day ago

    I can’t believe that this video took over a year to make. I love all this!

  • Name's OMEGA
    Name's OMEGA Day ago

    Loneliness got me into trying LSD

  • Dead Morose
    Dead Morose Day ago

    Loneliness is surely bad but it much better than shitty-toxic company

  • Baka World
    Baka World Day ago

    Hey

  • jherico viovicente

    😞

  • Yang's Arm
    Yang's Arm Day ago

    "Decline when friends call"
    But I'm lonely. I have no friends.

  • Yang's Arm
    Yang's Arm Day ago +1

    I'm lonely when chicken nuggets leave me.

  • ViciousKoala 216

    All Right!! I'll stop avoiding the Gym and ask My Friend out on a date

  • taylor chudler
    taylor chudler Day ago

    my life is a joke

  • taylor chudler
    taylor chudler Day ago

    :'(

  • Thomas Potts
    Thomas Potts Day ago

    I'm not lonely! I just prefer to be alone! Less bullshit!

  • Osc1llate W1ldly

    "if you are lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company" Jean-Paul Sartre

  • Weeb Wizard
    Weeb Wizard Day ago

    "Mental state that prevents connections even if you yearn for them"
    I think I'm at this stage. This video was one scary ass wake up call.

  • principal things on da pic

    im loneliness

  • Its_Skydive7
    Its_Skydive7 Day ago +1

    Yeah I’m pretty lonely

  • Bryce Ashcom
    Bryce Ashcom Day ago

    anyone watching this who is depressed/sad or you doubt yourself and look down upon your self then forget about everything for a few seconds and think about what you need ,all those friends you don’t have ,do you need them anyway ,nah. ai stay strong

  • Indie Fury
    Indie Fury Day ago

    Therapist will only put you on pills screwing up your libido maybe permanently or tell you to join a club. What a bunch of clowns.

  • Emmanuel R.
    Emmanuel R. Day ago

    saying you're lonely only makes you even more lonelier leading lonely vibes, making your self lonely even though you are not lonely.

  • Ryan NikeShoes
    Ryan NikeShoes Day ago

    Watching this because I'm in the Navy and I literally have nothing else better to do.. *update - 10 minutes later still buffering and waiting for it to load x)

  • Ajinkya Mahajan
    Ajinkya Mahajan Day ago

    Thanks a lot for sharing a great content it a total true context 👌👌✨❤😇

  • Luka
    Luka Day ago

    As an immigrant of 1.5 years so far it does feel lonely sometimes even if you have a lot of new friends and are extroverted. Or even if you stay in touch with a lot of old friends. I see great potential in VR for helping with loneliness with it we're approaching similar experiences as to being physically in the vicinity of people + we have a vast array of people to choose from with whom we want to socialize on different levels. And I can see it to be way easier for people to be vulnerable and comfortable.

    Sadly I don't own one and never tried using it for the sake of social interaction so I can't tell for sure but if you check youtube videos (mainly VRchat) I think you will have similar opinion.
    Additionally if anyone owns a VR please share your experience with it.

  • foxlias_ griffin

    Im a lonely bean

  • Pedro Lanna
    Pedro Lanna Day ago

    "D&D Event" . . . Cheap Shot.

  • Aswal play
    Aswal play Day ago

    Lone

  • serbian meme man
    serbian meme man Day ago +1

    Lest be honest wehen you finde a real true friend that does dump shit and Is pretty funny you only need one.

  • David Shevchenko
    David Shevchenko 2 days ago +1

    am i the only one who actually went to description, and checked out their soundcloud for music? AMAZING music choice @Kurzgesagt!!!

  • Nameless Legend
    Nameless Legend 2 days ago

    The moment I understood the weakness of my flesh... It disgusted me. I crave for the strength and certainty of steel. I aspire to the purity of the blessed machine. We all cling to our flesh as if it will not decay and fail us. One day the crude biomass that we call a "temple" WILL wither and you will pay the machine to save you. But they are already saved, for the machine is immortal.

  • paige sy
    paige sy 2 days ago

    OMG😭😭😭 I can relate so much! I've always made 'being an introvert' as an excuse for my behavior.. But I'm actually just LONELY 😭

  • Od3stroyer
    Od3stroyer 2 days ago +1

    I'm never lonely.

  • KoNeX
    KoNeX 2 days ago

    Feels bad when i am in a differendt class than my friends are xD

  • Sandra Skender
    Sandra Skender 2 days ago +1

    This video took like a year and the half

  • Myuhyuh Hyuhyuh
    Myuhyuh Hyuhyuh 2 days ago

    Shit is there something in this goddamned universe not threatening to kill me.

  • MotardMotorist
    MotardMotorist 2 days ago +4

    Excuse me but I love being alone

  • Fnord Fnordington
    Fnord Fnordington 2 days ago +2

    "loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity..and as deadly as smoking"...So why hasnt government banned loneliness yet? Theyd at least tried banning everything else.

  • Reaper stalker
    Reaper stalker 2 days ago

    last time I do open to those people
    it fucking hurt
    they don't even give a fuck about how I feel. they being totally asshole

  • Botyal Totertutal
    Botyal Totertutal 2 days ago +1

    Thanks now I understand why my friend is so depressed.

  • Topminator
    Topminator 2 days ago

    It's nice to be alone, it's not to be lonely... Try getting a cat!

  • Ayomipe Bamikole
    Ayomipe Bamikole 2 days ago

    Me.....

  • AI The Cat
    AI The Cat 2 days ago

    Something relevant: A video on misanthropy would be great.

  • shapiroepic 9
    shapiroepic 9 2 days ago

    9:20 fuck you for litteraly describing me

  • God Speed 2
    God Speed 2 2 days ago

    I have depression. This helped me

  • Mondane_CH.
    Mondane_CH. 2 days ago

    The worst pain ever

  • The Amazing Goldfish

    I have no friends and haven't been on an date in over 10 years.

  • DutchDuke
    DutchDuke 2 days ago +3

    This kinda feels like Introvert vs extrovert?

  • Enchanted_Hydrated Lit

    Why know what’s lonely?

    This comment

  • Andres Fernando Ghinaglia Delgado

    You are an amazing channel...

  • Marx
    Marx 2 days ago +1

    Me: dies of lonelyness
    Mom: video games

  • Smoove J
    Smoove J 2 days ago

    “And if the world refused to square with his version of reality then it was necessarily an uncaring world, a sour and sickening world, a penal colony, and he was doomed to be violently lonely in it. He bowed his head at the thought of how much strength a man would need to survive an entire life so lonely.”
    Franzen really understood loneliness. I think about this quote all the time.

  • Wolffzy T
    Wolffzy T 2 days ago +1

    no need to attack me so personally :(

  • Fake Smile
    Fake Smile 2 days ago

    Even tho I don't usually have social problems, because I have few close friends I can talk to anytime, I understand anyone who is suffering from loneliness. It happens to all of us, even most popular kids in school. You just gotta find something you enjoy doing and exercise. In my opinion, it's best to play video games and go to the gym. You sometimes go to that point that you don't need to have any friends lol

  • Myles Fe
    Myles Fe 2 days ago

    Kurzgesagt bro why you calling me out

  • Virgin1008
    Virgin1008 2 days ago

    Aw the little character in this animation is so adorable. I feel so sorry and relatable to him/her. I assumed a her for some reason. Kind of hard to tell, probably an intentional design.

  • Hamlet Jr
    Hamlet Jr 2 days ago

    The science behind tsunderes and dense MCs


    misunderstanding everything

  • blue eagle
    blue eagle 2 days ago +3

    🎼"All the lonely people, where do they all belong?"🎼

    • Mashiro Ichijo
      Mashiro Ichijo Day ago

      Aaaaah look at all the lonely people (nanananana) Aaaaah look at all the lonely people (nananana) Eleanor Rigby, died in the church and was buried along with here name, nobody came… wait, don´t make me cry, please

  • Lazy Playz
    Lazy Playz 2 days ago

    Altough i agree with this a lot of it is also found in introverts

  • TheBestPyro2505
    TheBestPyro2505 2 days ago

    Thank you, guys. I guess I’ve been lonely for a lot longer than I thought.

  • Ham Ji
    Ham Ji 2 days ago

    This is so me rn

  • Lavender Roselinda 1D

    I just need someone to talk too. But no one would probably see this but whatever
    I don't like Instagram. Why? I follow a lot of my old friends and highschool friends. Because of that I always see their posts. Everytime I see their posts it's always about them hanging out with their friends, or families. Everytime I see those I feel jealous, sad and very lonely. Seeing them so happy and having fun while I'm here being sad and jealous. I just couldn't stop looking at their happy faces. It makes me remember the days when I had lots of friends and when everyone likes me. It makes me remember the days when I have nothing to be sad about. Now everyday I wake up, I feel nothing. Sometimes I feel sad. Sometimes I just don't want to get up.
    When I was small, I hate school because of waking up early and homework. Now, I hate school because It'll be the day It'll be sitting alone and seeing others in their groups. Its the day people ignore me. It's the day I'll cry alone and silently.
    When I was small, I love family gatherings. I love going on holidays with my relatives. I was always happy seeing them. No one ever ignores me. Now I hate them. I hate meeting them. I hate watching them talk while I'm just there sitting alone. I hate being jealous. I never wanted to go anywhere with them.
    I use to love everyone. Now I hate most people. Including me.

  • Ämetchen
    Ämetchen 3 days ago

    I would like to think all this loneliness in this point of life would be the last time I feel it.....

  • Ämetchen
    Ämetchen 3 days ago +1

    I watched this video before?

    RU-clip: *ReccOmEnDaTiOn intensifies*

  • Melon Biscuit
    Melon Biscuit 3 days ago

    Sometimes the cold feeling u get from loneliness makes u feel good

  • It's Insecurity
    It's Insecurity 3 days ago +3

    My life explained in one video.

  • connect with nature and peace

    I always feel like m not good enough i have friends but not really good and close friends i get frustruted from all this socialising and trying to fit in that group i just want to stop worrying bout people

  • DeeEcks
    DeeEcks 3 days ago

    if ignoring phone calls and declining invitations is loneliness then I guess im the most popular person ever because I don't get them in the first place 😎

  • :
    : 3 days ago

    heh
    First world problems

  • Ralune
    Ralune 3 days ago

    I don't know how did I stumble into this loneliness cycle. All of the sudden people kinda left me out, and then they basically ignore my existence. It hurts. I've tried joining their conversations, attending events, asking them to hang out, etc. But it didn't work, they never really acknowledge my existence. They don't start conversations with me, and even if I did start first, they'll just completely ignore it. So, I started to become defensive and began to pull myself out of my social circle, because I don't want to hurt myself more. I always sort of deny the feeling of loneliness that I endure, well, at some levels I do feel like I'm lonely, but I'm always in a bit of denial with it. I don't know anymore. Sometimes I just want someone to completely wipe my entire existence out of this universe, because I don't matter. I'm so sorry that I've wasted so much space that could be more useful if I wasn't here.

    • Ralune
      Ralune 2 days ago

      +Heruo Light May I know what's your solution to the cycle?

    • Heruo Light
      Heruo Light 2 days ago

      Ralune i found my solution to the cycle

  • Luna
    Luna 3 days ago

    This video means a lot, because I have fatal life threatening depression, and I feel almost every single thing you talk about. It shows me what I'm doing.

  • Doctor Maxis
    Doctor Maxis 3 days ago +1

    Empty

  • Omq Sneaq
    Omq Sneaq 3 days ago +1

    Sorry you call me?

  • Ava Shimer
    Ava Shimer 3 days ago

    😭

  • hewji kaijo
    hewji kaijo 3 days ago

    the animation is so sad, i feel bad for the pink looking nonexistent people :^(

  • Camron Fritz
    Camron Fritz 3 days ago

    My Brain: I should try and find some friends and go do something fun!
    Also My Brain: I'm about to ruin this man's whole career.

  • Marisa Clardy
    Marisa Clardy 3 days ago

    Considering I just moved to the otherside of the world, and left all of my friends behind, I really needed this.

  • kurochi chan
    kurochi chan 3 days ago +2

    The part about paying more attention to others but understanding their intentions less has been me for years. The last 3 especially.. I don't trust anyone and am scared to get to know new people, and even when I meet a nice person who I would love to be friends with, I'd never dare to ask them anything again. Now I'm stuck with high depression, but I'm gonna try to stay positive and start anew in college next year in a new city 😊

    • SpectraLuna
      SpectraLuna 3 days ago

      To start anew is a perfect opportunity for you, all you need to do is keep your head up high and be open to know people. I wish you the best of luck my friend.
      Have a nice day :)

  • The Black Hole
    The Black Hole 3 days ago

    Considering all the bullshit people give each other, loneliness is codependent masochism, the likes of yearning for mass amounts of electric shock therapy.

  • friendship whiskey
    friendship whiskey 3 days ago

    I was fine before I watched this

  • Arizonan Mapping
    Arizonan Mapping 3 days ago

    Loneliness is basically the way to describe the past 2 or 3 years of my life, I had to move last year and I realized I couldn't exactly interact with people at that point, there are people i'm chill with but they most likely think i'm some retarded kid, hoping that over the summer I can recover and finally be able to talk like a normal human again.

  • Tammie Zhu
    Tammie Zhu 3 days ago

    I feel lonely when my friendships with others aren't a two-way street.

  • hello yeah
    hello yeah 3 days ago

    I have been lonely for my entire life... I guess I'm dead.

  • Madeleine
    Madeleine 3 days ago

    i am crying, I'm so lonely

  • XxAvaxado xX
    XxAvaxado xX 3 days ago

    *If you feel lonely , you are lonely*

  • Canis Maj0r
    Canis Maj0r 3 days ago

    I really appreciate when creators explain these human issues under the light of science, because, honestly, im so done with philosophical/religious creators trying to convince you of some 'enlightened' BS about modern society. Its refreshing to see the raw point of view of biology and a solution that is based on objective facts and neutral in it's propositions. I'm always reluctant to watch videos about human issues because I loathe biased POVs or useless religious BS, but this one is on point. Thank you guys! I think it's important to learn to see our sufferings from the bilogical POV, because only then we can understand it's necessity in life.

  • Joseph Stalin
    Joseph Stalin 3 days ago +1

    *So that's why i have cancer?*

  • Niv 'Mohnd
    Niv 'Mohnd 3 days ago +1

    This comment section and video helped me a lot! Now i'm getting up and going to get things done.
    And i'll give a shit about anything else.

  • The Hill
    The Hill 3 days ago

    It's because of feminism has destruction of our families and then sense of belonging along with it. Most of us are not LGBT.

  • Leo S. Fernandes
    Leo S. Fernandes 3 days ago

    I feel attacked right now

  • Steven Johnston
    Steven Johnston 3 days ago

    You are born, you are live, you are die no one give a fuck about that except your parents.

  • Vassilis Karavassilis

    I noticed that none of the comments has been disliked...

    • Tom 441
      Tom 441 3 days ago

      Vassilis Karavassilis I’ve disliked your comment. Only to see if it shows as a disliked comment to you.

  • Sierra LVX
    Sierra LVX 3 days ago

    I was so lonely in high school and I'm still dealing with the ramifications. I've found a new social group that I know values and loves me but because no one ever invited me anywhere and I didn't have the guts to invite anyone, I don't know how to just hang out with people. I only see people at school or work and I don't know how to deepen a relationship with anyone. I'm 21 and I've been single my whole life. The good thing is I haven't put on an armour and I'm still meeting new people.

  • DrEsquizoide
    DrEsquizoide 3 days ago

    I have been lonely all my life, but I'm way beyond the point of feeling bad about it, I am truly fortunate, was it my education? Was it adaptation? I don't know, all I know is that I am ready to collaborate with others when it comes to work or academic purposes, but I would not accept a coffee from anyone.
    I have hated, I have loved, I have laughed and I have cried around other people, but I have never belonged with others, so yeah, I'll never have a wife or kids, and will live and die alone, but I'm ok with it, between the work, videogames and books I never get bored

  • Totally Fortnite Pro

    I want my birdies

  • emre subasi
    emre subasi 3 days ago

    that video put a smile on my face :)

  • RAFAEL MARQUEZ
    RAFAEL MARQUEZ 3 days ago

    This year I ask all my classmates to be my friend or do something fun but they always reject my invite so I just sit alone

  • john mark
    john mark 4 days ago

    I'm listening to ram ranch while listening to this 18 naked birdboys

  • Abiyasa Musyafa
    Abiyasa Musyafa 4 days ago

    9:57 that's Harold hide the pain

  • Lewis72
    Lewis72 4 days ago

    Great video. Very insightful.
    Having had Crohn's since I was 24, I used to avoid many social invites (and even a few blatant offers from the other sex!) for fear of being embarrassed about being caught short needing the toilet. It's never really been something you want to talk about with first introductions to new friends or potential partners.