• Опубликовано: 17 фев 2019
  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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Комментарии • 49 018

  • Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell
    Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell  Месяц назад +8463

    We designed a poster on this topic as well. You can find it here: standard.tv/collections/in-a-nutshell/products/in-a-nutshell-loneliness-poster

    • Arman Çatalkaya
      Arman Çatalkaya 23 часа назад

      No cure ...loneliness

    • Thanet Phoumsavanh
      Thanet Phoumsavanh 8 дней назад

      Can you please do a Video Based on How to Win Friends And Influence People please it will help SOOOO many people

    • Itz Juan
      Itz Juan 8 дней назад

      You should do something similar with the thumbnail, it's pretty good imo

    • Appelden Lim
      Appelden Lim 10 дней назад

      *I have never recieve any invitation before*

    • Raiken Xion
      Raiken Xion 12 дней назад

      This was a really good video, i found quite a few things that sounded just like me in this video. I wish i could just relax and get along with people, they say life is too short and i can see myself reaching my 60s and regret not mixing with people.

  • JoyDeparted
    JoyDeparted 23 часа назад

    Me: Want to go for a coffee during lunch?
    Female co-worker: I have a boyfriend
    Guess i'll just have lunch alone?

  • Luke Beevers
    Luke Beevers День назад

    Thank you. I hope I will properly take the advice.

  • Olio Di Palma
    Olio Di Palma День назад +1

    5:36 finally some good fucking news

  • Mike Barrett
    Mike Barrett День назад

    Lonely pretty much all the time, at the point. This life is kinda meh, tbh

  • you
    you День назад

    All the soyboys in the comment section complaining about how they're lonely lol

  • Y2Kvids
    Y2Kvids День назад

    I am not alone , I have You . ....Tube.

  • ismail erradi
    ismail erradi День назад

    Video : *you're not the only one*
    Me : *Happiness noises*

  • Rado's CS SHIT POST
    Rado's CS SHIT POST День назад

    The most beautiful channel ever made .

  • Talazzz
    Talazzz День назад

    I cried when I watch this and yeah... loneliness can kill well it can make you want kill yourself

  • francis santos
    francis santos День назад

    I thought I will get hurt by this video but I am wrong. In fact I am feeling happy about it because I know I on the right track. Maybe no one will read this, but as the video said we need to be vulnerable and open up a bit, even no one will notice. So thanks for the video Kurzgesagt - In a Nutshell

  • Shailaja Dubey
    Shailaja Dubey День назад +2

    i can link to all stuff you said
    i am very lonely in my heart and my mind i cant think of anything **(

  • maverick
    maverick День назад

    다 좋은데 마지막 전문의 와의 상담은
    우리나라정서엔 좀 안맞음
    나도 우울증때문에 정신과병원을 다녀봤지만
    그냥 약만 처방해주거나
    아아 그냥 우울증이네 ㅎ 하면서
    하찮고 귀찮다고 표현하는 경우가 많았음
    본인이 제대로 된 전문의를 못만난걸수도 있지만
    전문의도 사람이기 때문에 좀 더 신중해야 할 필요가 있음

  • Thomas the Train
    Thomas the Train День назад +1

    Me: I'm so lonely.
    Everybody else: Then don't be alone.
    Me: omg why did I not think of that. Absolute genius.

    • Thomas the Train
      Thomas the Train День назад

      What's even worse is they don't understand my sarcasm :/

  • Locos World
    Locos World День назад

    Why are ur videos so deep and beautiful??

  • Ken Agrawal
    Ken Agrawal День назад

    My only best friend for the last 11-12 years has been my mirror.

  • Agata Ziętek
    Agata Ziętek День назад

    I used to feel lonely for most of my life. Then I met my best friend and for two years I didn't feel lonely at all. But now we grew up and we have way less time for each other and I'm back to feeling lonely on a regular basis. But now I realize that it can be different for me and that's valuable

  • Shrek 697
    Shrek 697 День назад

    This helped me with my brake up

  • Momma Chimichanga
    Momma Chimichanga День назад

    Sometimes I tell my mother about how my elementary school life was and she tells me to stop a lot because it makes her sad a worried...

  • Lurchnblue70
    Lurchnblue70 День назад

    Loneliness is my only friend and I'm quite happy with him being so!

  • milk
    milk День назад

    i felt lonely watching this

  • Zg Zg
    Zg Zg День назад

    So relatable...

  • Pinochet
    Pinochet 2 дня назад +2

    This made me feel tiny, and of all the many people in the world, my problems are one of the many, many, many problems others are dealing with

  • Richard Edwards
    Richard Edwards 2 дня назад

    Courts co zat is How you pronounce it

  • Nom Nom Nom
    Nom Nom Nom 2 дня назад

    Bahkan sebelum mencoba nya aku tahu akan ada penolakan, tapi aku tetap mencoba dan hasilnya ditolak oleh mereka ketika aku ingin mencoba. Kenapa bisa begitu? I'm so sad :(

  • Ash Gibson
    Ash Gibson 2 дня назад

    Plus it's not the fact I'm afraid to meet people but each time I have tried to befriend people I get let down, one person said for 2 weeks yup were going to this movie fundraiser and then 10 min before the movie she messages me to say she cant go cos she like still hadn't had dinner? Fucking bullshit reason and then so far others who have offered to do things never follow through. If you havent got family or a partner or children seems like mostly everyone else has.. got their own thing going on..

  • Ash Gibson
    Ash Gibson 2 дня назад

    It's even harder when you havent got any family left and you're dealing with a life time of loss, bullying, abuse, rejection, heartache, and no money to do anything.

  • Commander Kizza
    Commander Kizza 2 дня назад

    this is actually pretty true from what ive experienced. been bullied, have trouble with social interactions, my best friend moved away, i have 2 online friends and 1 friend that isnt really the best kind of friend. its not that easy living like this

  • Yen Pox
    Yen Pox 2 дня назад

    Utterly relatable. Good video!

  • Joeyo Liban
    Joeyo Liban 2 дня назад

    Everytime i feel lonely.

  • Steve's Sketches
    Steve's Sketches 2 дня назад

    A few of the silouttes throughout the video are mildly pixelized, it may require a fix. Regardless, this video is amazing!

  • 김동영
    김동영 2 дня назад

    저는 영어를 잘 못합니다
    제 문제가 뭔지 돌아보게 됬어요
    감사합니다. 이렇게 귀한 영상을 만들어주셔서...
    눈물이 핑 돕니다. 다시 세상에 도전해볼 용기를 얻었습니다. 고맙습니다
    Thank you
    so much

  • Johnny Depp Emma Watson
    Johnny Depp Emma Watson 2 дня назад +2

    I'm stucked.
    That is too hard to fix.
    Specially when you don't have any friends or you're not sure if they like to be a friend for you

  • Johnny Depp Emma Watson
    Johnny Depp Emma Watson 2 дня назад

    Any INTJs here??

  • Shreeya Mittal
    Shreeya Mittal 2 дня назад

    How about if you're lonely and fine with being that way? 'Coz I like my label as a social stigma.

  • Jorge Rojas Vargas
    Jorge Rojas Vargas 2 дня назад

    This is by far one of your best videos, guys. You are straight up awesome.

  • Brandon Fraire
    Brandon Fraire 2 дня назад

    Thanks kurgasak

  • TheOperamore
    TheOperamore 2 дня назад

    Did she just spit at 2:59 ? lol

  • Mr. Jin
    Mr. Jin 2 дня назад

    Loneliness is apart of my biology well that part is a pretty big part

  • KunniK
    KunniK 2 дня назад +1

    Too busy with romance for friends? now there's a problem I want to have

  • Punto Of Mystery
    Punto Of Mystery 2 дня назад

    The most relatable thing I’ve ever seen.
    I moved to a new area and was bullied relentlessly for just 2 years at the age of 15; I’d never been singled out before and it hit me like a truck. I lashed out at all my old friends in response because I was jealous that they still got to hang out and do stuff regularly while I was too far away and constantly alone with only my older tormentors.
    over the last 13 years, I’ve done well- I have my own business with clients in four countries, travel overseas at least twice a month, am what many folks consider aesthetically attractive, am out in nature any chance I get, am exceptionally fit and healthy... Yet I have no friends, nobody to go for a drink or to the movies with and I’m perpetually single. That first massive rejection has stuck with me; I cross the street if I see a human approaching, wear headphones constantly in public, cannot maintain eye contact unless I’m in a work related interaction in which case I put on my “mask” and every time I do go out to socialise, I end up sitting paralysed with fear in total silence for hours until suddenly jumping up and leaving having not spoken to a soul. I genuinely believe there’s no point in talking to anyone because they won’t like me anyway. By isolating myself I’ve come to believe I’m boring with no humour, nothing to add to the conversation that nobody else can’t say better than me and that because im not bubbly people would much rather talk to more extroverted company. I constantly get asked why I’m single, why I don’t seem to have any close or old friends and the truth is I’m terrified. I’m terrified of people and I’m terrified of rejection. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone, it’s truly crippling.

  • Lydia Viator
    Lydia Viator 2 дня назад

    hm well i've never made one friend in my life face to face before so i might as well get cancer any time soon

  • Smile Smile
    Smile Smile 2 дня назад


  • bentherusho
    bentherusho 2 дня назад

    This is what happened to me, so much I had dark thoughts. With help I'm much better now but I still struggle with social interactions but that's due to an underlying condition.

  • MrFlux Pavilion
    MrFlux Pavilion 2 дня назад

    lmao after watching this i get the urge to leave the house and try to be more sociable but then after i do leave the house and im just as lonely outside as i am when im inside.then feel even more shitty when i see all the people walking around laughing with friends Hits right in the Feels.

  • Dr Stingray
    Dr Stingray 3 дня назад

    I know this is sudden and random, but what is being lonely?

    Is it having human company?
    Or is it communicating with another being or interacting with it.
    We are never truly lonely.
    Matter revolves around us, YOU are matter.....sooo why do we feel lonely....?
    Or is it just the 'thought' or 'feeling' of never being heard?
    I dont know exactly, but that's my take on what being 'lonely' could be.

  • Roberto Sanchez
    Roberto Sanchez 3 дня назад

    This channel is over-hyped.

  • Frogs David
    Frogs David 3 дня назад

    Subscribe if pewdiepie

  • master master
    master master 3 дня назад

    You all have no clue what loneliness rly is...

  • Xane Graphics
    Xane Graphics 3 дня назад

    I really really love this channel

  • pranav vardhan
    pranav vardhan 3 дня назад +1

    Nice timing i realy lost for a day becos of loneliness tq

  • Leon Schuring
    Leon Schuring 3 дня назад +1

    All you need in life is Jesus, you will never feel alone.

  • Владимир Жиров
    Владимир Жиров 3 дня назад

    I like it!!!!!

  • Tasha5551
    Tasha5551 3 дня назад

    Such an eye opening video. I didn't even realise it but I've experience loneliness so so long and haven't been able to identify it

  • Gulraiz Farrukh
    Gulraiz Farrukh 3 дня назад

    this is literally fuckin me

  • Richard Taylor
    Richard Taylor 3 дня назад

    This makes me think of my depression

  • Dillandash58
    Dillandash58 3 дня назад

    I 👏🏻 want 👏🏻 a 👏🏻 face 👏🏻 reveal! 👏🏻

  • Damian Stonquist
    Damian Stonquist 3 дня назад

    This is one of the most amazing and helpful videos I've seen. I've felt suffocated by this for so long now and all the negative emotions/thoughts/perspectives/assumptions I've been experiencing have become second nature, to the point that it's engrained in my personality and I was blind to identify the root cause. Thank you a million times, Kurzgesagt, for opening my mind to myself and pushing to open my heart to others.

  • music blue
    music blue 3 дня назад +1

    That's how I feel in the inside and outside like if you Feel the same unlike if you don't feel it

  • Jesus Sosa
    Jesus Sosa 3 дня назад +3

    I have no friends and had no friends for my whole life

  • Farah Louis
    Farah Louis 3 дня назад

    This is deep

  • Ashley Hart
    Ashley Hart 3 дня назад

    Thank you for this video.. it really opened my eyes

  • suga glider ;-;
    suga glider ;-; 3 дня назад +6

    I've been lonely all my life I struggle with things like
    . Anxiety
    . Social anxiety
    . Im Socially awkward
    . Low self esteem
    . I struggle to make friends
    . I dont make eye contact
    . I struggle to simply go into a shop and buy something
    . I think that everyone is judging me for everything and every fukcing action I do
    I'm still trying to overcome these things and I'm going to get a counselor, I hate this part of my life...which sadly is about 80% of it.
    I mean I have friends but funnily enough we are all exactly the same, we joined together as almost the rejects. Where all really kind to each other and look after each other and stick up for one another if others are trying to tack the piss out of us.
    The fact that I'm still in high school scared me and I'm worried how I'll manage when I'm older...

  • Urbaaniapina
    Urbaaniapina 4 дня назад

    One Finnish song ones said. "It's pointless waiting to hear the gunshot when loneliness will carve the same hole". If someone didn't catch the message. It talks about suicide.

  • Josh Mccartie
    Josh Mccartie 4 дня назад


  • Jakob Morales
    Jakob Morales 4 дня назад

    Oh darn...I need to get help

    ALI SANTA 4 дня назад

    Every single day , i feels lonely ,and every single day, i try to talk to poeple , its end up with me to be more lonely .........it's really hurt 💔💔

    • Husham Fusion
      Husham Fusion 2 дня назад +2

      Sadly, a lot of people have deviated from what was thought to be morally right. Jerks are everywhere and people are simply egocentric. That's just the way things are, and I've learned to live with it. I want to change it, but it seems like I unfortunately just never get an opportunity.

  • FanelliFilms
    FanelliFilms 4 дня назад

    I shouldn’t have watched videos about Evangelion today

  • Muffin Grande
    Muffin Grande 4 дня назад

    All of the comments here are genius

  • First Name Last Name
    First Name Last Name 4 дня назад

    I got a headspace ad about loneliness

  • UnderBridge Rock
    UnderBridge Rock 4 дня назад

    I feel lonely and complacent, Salt Lake City has made me dislike mormons and avoid there interaction. This isn't healthy. I should just play it simple and move somewhere that doesn't isolate me. I'm not Buddha or Jesus Christ, these people require that level of patients and I only wake up perfect a couple days a week.

  • winner winner chicken dinner
    winner winner chicken dinner 4 дня назад +2

    I cried while watching this. So much work and effort just to make this video. I can attest that it made an impact on me.

  • Ajit V. Pai
    Ajit V. Pai 4 дня назад

    god i relate to every second of this video on a molecular level it's scary but it also makes so much sense how things are connected

  • Ajit V. Pai
    Ajit V. Pai 4 дня назад

    Facebook reporting system: What's wrong?
    *I'm in this video and I don't like it.*

  • Anastatian E Romani Journalist Gypsy

    Thank you for your time and consideration from Peace Mode Arena and Enlightenment Consciousness by Anastatian Elizabeth Romani founder

  • Der Aua
    Der Aua 4 дня назад

    If only professional help would be helpful :-(

  • eat ham
    eat ham 4 дня назад

    the hole in the chest reminds me of hollows

  • Phong Võ
    Phong Võ 4 дня назад

    Thank you so much! Your video helps me a lot and im sure it makes many other better too

  • Shashikanth Sadhanandan
    Shashikanth Sadhanandan 4 дня назад

    I often feel lonely. This is my WhatsApp number 7715807715 u can text me anytime If u also feel lonely. We can be very good friends. Let's kill loneliness together. 😊

  • محاسن احمدون
    محاسن احمدون 4 дня назад

    I love i admire kurzgzgat 😍😍😍😍😍

  • HAŪ R U
    HAŪ R U 4 дня назад

    This video talk loneliness related to science. And it lets me know what l should do. l have to love myself because it is first step that starts to every relationship.

  • Lily Fohey
    Lily Fohey 4 дня назад

    wow. i didnt expect i would be able to relate to so many people about this! the thing the video said about your brain being out of tune to facial expressions and misunderstanding them is exactly what i have been feeling for so long! i still do struggle with that exact thing to this day but it is getting better. its taking awhile to get better and it sometimes drives me crazy how slow the progress is taking but its slowly but surely making a turn for the better. human phyychology is a really interesting thing. it can be really scary and weird at times but it is interesting. (please excuse my aweful spelling)

  • radical
    radical 4 дня назад


  • Remy Dupart
    Remy Dupart 4 дня назад

    This really means a lot to me.

  • Usama Nada
    Usama Nada 4 дня назад

    I am following this channel since its beginning. By far this is "the most remarkable" video they have made .. Dear
    Kurzgesagt, this video for many people facing and suffering loneliness, could be a real life changing. Thanks a lot for your efforts.

  • Joey Prater
    Joey Prater 4 дня назад

    Holy crap this video was better than any therapists I’ve been to. And this video is basically explaining my life.

  • acemanmkiii
    acemanmkiii 4 дня назад

    Me: it sure is lonely I'm here
    RU-clip autoplay: say no more fam

  • Pandaren Warrior
    Pandaren Warrior 4 дня назад

    Then what do you do when you gave people the benefit of the doubt repeatedly, and you got a baseball bat to the back of the head each time?

  • The Owl Glow
    The Owl Glow 5 дней назад

    i miss the bitbs. But thats not a bad thing, the video is incredible

  • Kirkology
    Kirkology 5 дней назад

    Depression aside;
    Can we take a moment to appreciate the soundtrack?

  • epyon542
    epyon542 5 дней назад

    Thank you for this, My significant other has been battling with loneliness for a while now and I've been trying to figure out how to help her and I think you basically have started me on the right path.

  • Eventually Sa
    Eventually Sa 5 дней назад

    Hands up all

  • Eventually Sa
    Eventually Sa 5 дней назад

    Hands up all

  • A.R Cahyadi
    A.R Cahyadi 5 дней назад

    Avoiding this video whole week
    Now i watch it.

  • Quaker Oats
    Quaker Oats 5 дней назад

    Loneliness as deadly as smoking a pack a day or obesity? LOL fuck off.

    • llamasr hot
      llamasr hot 5 дней назад

      This video took a year and a half to make for them and you shit on it for a fact that they even cited. LOL fuck off.

  • FelkDaddy
    FelkDaddy 5 дней назад

    I feel attacked 😂

  • Alex Baldwin
    Alex Baldwin 5 дней назад +6

    Does anyone think part of this loneliness/depression pandemic is due to social media? No, I don’t mean as in people playing games and watching videos instead of going outside, that’s old people talk.
    I mean how social media allows us to look into and scrutinize even the smallest details about anyone’s life. The topics that get the most traction online are controversial ones, like call-out posts, theories, rumors about people being “problematic”, and countless made-up stories about harassment and bullying. We’ve muddied the waters of trust, perhaps permanently.
    I think it’s created a problem where people can’t look past indifferences anymore. And not just like in politics - I mean on the smallest things. Everything can be “problematic” now. Of course there’s things and people who are actually problematic, but the Internet has caused so much to get blown out of proportion, I think it’s actually hurting our generation’s social skills.
    People are now forming their opinions of people based on one or two things, or by bandwagons of hateful people online. And I think it transfers into real life. Two people that could’ve been best pals a decade or two ago now wouldn’t last a day because one of them... I dunno, jaywalks or something. And the other thinks it’s super problematic and leads to a life of crime or some other ridiculous conclusion.
    Once you find a best friend, it’s actually harder to lose them than to keep them. Problem is it seems like it’s harder and harder to make long-lasting friends nowadays, because if you so much as make one mildly offensive joke in front of the wrong person, you’re branded as a criminal deserving of the death sentence.

  • 紙魚Silver Fish
    紙魚Silver Fish 5 дней назад


  • Lydya Putri
    Lydya Putri 5 дней назад

    Thankyoooou :)

  • One Breath
    One Breath 5 дней назад

    I hate loneliness after watching this video